#182 She's Not Coming At You — She's Coming To You

Podcast: Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal · Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

Opublikowano: 2026-10-22

"Why is she coming at me?" It's one of the most common things men say after betrayal — when their partner's pain shows up as tears, anger, a raised voice, or questions that come fast and hard. In this solo episode, Hali speaks directly to men who broke trust and want to stay. She explains why a man's nervous system reads his partner's emotion as a threat — through neuroception, shame, and patterns learned long before this relationship — and why that reaction, while real, is almost never an accurate read of what's happening. She then turns to the ot...