390. “But It Felt So Real”: Why Red Flags Don’t Look Like Red Flags

Podcast: Relationships Made Easy · Dr. Abby Medcalf

Opublikowano: 2026-07-06

Today I’m not doing the standard “look for red flags” thing. Ugh, I hate that phrase. It puts the whole burden on you to spot something that, by its nature, doesn’t look like a flag at all. (And then when you don’t see it, somehow that’s your fault? Nope. Stop. We’re not doing that here.) The reason red flags feel like green flags is that high-intensity behaviors mimic the outputs of real love, things like attention, certainty, and devotion, without including any of the inputs, things like time, consistency, and being actually known. So toda...